Some of the greatest mistakes that I have ever seen others make come from being silent when they need to speak. Today, I went on a drive by myself. I watched a deer jump around and then the sunset after that. I thought through the richness of my most recent conversations:
“He just got his feeding tube. He’s not a big fan of it.”
“Can I hold your hand?”
“I always dreamed of something like this.”
“I cannot believe this is happening.”
“Will you be my best friend?”
And then I thought about what would have happened in the lives of these people had we not spoken. They wouldn’t know me, and I wouldn’t know them. When they or I leave the earth, we wouldn’t have last words to share. We wouldn’t have changed each other’s hearts.
I’ve lost quite a few friends. And the things that were most important (and remain the most important) are the moments of rawness. The tears, the Gospel, the serious ache. The “I’m sorry.” and “I forgive you.” The “That’s annoying.” and “That’s funny.” And the teary eyed conversations that end in prayer and laughter.
The gist is this. Fear is easy. Love is hard.
Let yourself always say the kind things that you need to say. You’ll be so happy you did. And so will everyone else.
…because love wins.